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Running a Household · Module 2 of 7 Foundation

Who Owns What

The difference between owning and doing.

Tasks get done. Functions get dropped.

Taking out the trash is a task. Keeping the household fed is a function. The difference matters because a task can be forgotten and caught the next day, but a function that drops keeps dropping until someone notices, and by then the cost has compounded: the expired insurance, the missed enrollment window, the slow leak that became a floor repair.

Ownership, not assignment

Ownership means one person holds the thread. Not that they do every piece of work themselves, but that if it slips, it is on them to notice. A helper carries part of the load. A backup can pick it up for a week without having to learn the job from scratch. Those are three different roles, and most households have never named any of them.

The most dangerous function in any household is the one everyone assumes someone else is covering.

The reading for this module lays out how to tell ownership from assignment and how to find the gaps where no one is actually holding the thread. Read it with the function list you built in Module 1 beside you, because the worksheet below is going to ask you to fill in three names for each one.

The blanks are the point

When you fill in the worksheet, some functions will have a clear owner, a helper, and a backup. Others will have a blank in the backup column, or worse, a blank in the owner column. Those blanks are not a failure. They are the finding. They show you exactly where the household is running on luck, and the next few modules start closing them.

Go Deeper

The reading for this module

This is the core reading for the module. Take it with your earlier work beside you.

Name who owns each function.

For each function on your list, name who owns it, who helps, and who covers when the owner is away. The blanks are the lesson.